Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Responsibility...or lack thereof....


Not sure what is going on, but it seems like I am surrounded by non-responsible people these days.

This week we are on Spring break from the school that I work at. I am babysitting one of my after school care program kids this week during the day ( I will call her A). Supposed to be babysitting from 7:50-5:10 or so....

okay....so Monday her mom dropped her off at 7:55. Tuesday, her mom dropped her off at 8:15. Today it is 8:15 and she is still not here. (she got dropped off at 8:20). Her mom is supposed to be at work at 8 am. (Her mom works right down the street from my house.) I am shocked that her mom keeps her job. If I showed up to work late everyday then I would get reprimanded in some way. Her mom says she has a hard time waking A up....

Look you are the mom, YOU need to be responsible and get her up. If I have to be somewhere at a certain time, I make sure my kids are UP and AWAKE and ready to go on time. In this economy you can't be late for work. You have to be responsible (especially since the company you work for is looking to lay off 250 people next month!) I guess I just don't understand.....

Another example I have been dealing with is.... yesterday was my brother's birthday. He is the youngest of my 2 brothers. While at my parent's house last night to celebrate, my other brother came over with his wife and their 2 kids. He really gets on my nerves sometimes with his LACK of responsibility.

First some background: He got his girlfriend pregnant right out of high school. They were forced to get married by my father who told him to do what was right. He was supposed to be attending college classes at the local community college, which my parents paid for. Halfway through the quarter my parents get a letter saying that my brother flunked out because he NEVER attended a class.  They lived with my parents during this time and my mom was primary caregiver for Lacie (my niece). Then in the span of 6 months they lived in 3 different apartments getting evicted after not paying rent the 2nd month. He can't hold down a job because he doesn't like to take orders and he has failed at least one drug test. He and Frances (his wife) had another baby in June 2007. At 6 months old, Alex all of a sudden started having seizures. Alex was in the hospital for 2 weeks until they were able to get the seizures under control. During this time, my mom bought a trailer so they would have somewhere to live. Right now, Alex has been diagnosed with autism among other problems. My niece is in the special ed class for kindergarten and struggling. My brother is working for my dad (some of the time) because that is the only job he can keep. Frances doesn't seem to do anything but watch tv.  They can't keep up with their bills, yet they can use their tax refund to buy a flat screen tv for their bedroom.....etc. ...

Well yesterday, they announced that Frances is pregnant again. Look, I should be happy for them, but I just can't be. They are so friggin' irresponsible that it is not funny. They can't take care of the 2 kids they have; how are they going to take care of another one? I feel like I need to smack Joe up top the head and say "what the **** are you thinking?" My thinking is he ISN'T thinking..... Ugghh.....

I just needed to vent I think. I can't say that I am perfectly responsible all the time, however it seems like I am surrounded by irresponsible people left and right. How do I deal with them?

4 comments:

  1. Responsibility is all put on the other person in our society today. Why man up to what you know you should be doing when there's someone else giving you hand out, right?

    Honestly, I do know where you're coming from. It pains every person to see these sorts of things going on under their noses, especially if it's family doing the very things we HATE.

    Venting is okay. We all need to do this from time to time. I'm don't want to rain on your venting, but please exercise caution. The world keeps getting crazier every day is all and while we still can practice our First Amendment Rights, some people can surely make our lives miserable for expressing ourselves, you know what I mean?

    It was nice meeting you today. God's blessings to you & yours!

    ~Cathy Kennedy, Children's Author
    The Tale of Ole Green Eyes

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  2. I understand Cathy completely what you are saying. I have taken out some of what I wrote. I need to exercise caution, like you said, and remember to read many times before I hit post. Something I normally do but did not do on this post this morning. I also know that this venting will come as no surprise to my brother as he already knows this is how I feel. Thank you again for making me reread and edit what I had written!

    :) Rachel

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  4. Goodness, sorry you have to deal with that. That is the one thing that irks me about in home daycares. Parents aren't consistent for the provider or their own children.

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