So that is what my husband is thinking about....

Often times during the day, when we are sitting watching TV or eating dinner I will look at my husband and say "What are you thinking?" Nine times out of 10 he will answer nothing. Yeah sure...I really wanted to know what he was thinking and why he wouldn't be open and honest with me. I am sure some of you have the same problem.

As I was looking for a solution to my problem, I came across the book For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn.

This book was an eye-opener for me. When Bill says he isn't thinking about anything, he probably is not thinking about anything! (Completely different from when a woman says she isn't thinking about anything, because we usually are thinking about LOTS of things! LOL)

For Women Only offers 7 revelations about men that we probably knew deep down, but we are not practicing. These include: Men need respect, men are insecure, men are providers, men want more sex, men are visual, men are unromantic clods, and that men care about appearance. In all of these Feldhahn takes scientific research analysis and uncovers the most common insecurities in the average man. Most of these seem like common sense to me, however once I really read about how to build up my husband and accept these principles about him, I learned that many things that I had been doing may have actually been hurting my husband and that he just didn't know how to tell me.

For some this book may seem preachy, and may seem like Feldhahn is saying that women needs to be subservient to their husbands. I don't feel that is the case at all. I feel she offers a comprehensive guide to what my husband is thinking. I plan on implementing some of her theories. Just the day after I read, I found myself more aware of what I was saying to my husband and HOW I was saying it to him. I am trying to be more positive and to reinforce how I feel that he is a great father, husband, and provider!

The only drawback to the book was about the design. Feldhahn had ideas bulleted in the chapters that were exact copy and pastes of sentences that you had just read or were going to read. They were VERY distracting.

The message of the book was AWESOME and empowering to me as a wife. One thing I am trying to do to live each day better is to be a better wife to my husband and I feel after reading this book and implementing the tactics that I FINALLY have the tools to do that!

DISCLAIMER: I received a copy of this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review. All opinions expressed are my own.


  1. Good to know, that he really isn't thinking anything. :-)
    Thanks for the review!


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