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So sorry this is a downer post. Just keeping it real. I am off to find something for the kids to do inside again today.
Wednesday, July 22, 2020
I got nothing
Sorry for the blog silence. I've got nothing. The weather here is hot (which I can deal with), humid (which I can't deal with), with pop up storms. Haven't walked since Thursday. Don't feel like doing anything. Everyday seems like groundhog day, which is not the way that I thrive to live. So tired of all the stuff going on, mask debates, uncertainty with what orders our governor will put out next, kids are worried about school, will we be going back to school?, how much stocking up should I be doing, etc. It is all hard. I saw this on Facebook this morning and think it is pretty accurate for how I feel.
So sorry this is a downer post. Just keeping it real. I am off to find something for the kids to do inside again today.
So sorry this is a downer post. Just keeping it real. I am off to find something for the kids to do inside again today.
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Been there, done that, though not in a pandemic. When I had 3 under 5, there were moments when I thought I was going to lose my mind. Here's a suggestion to help with two of those issues: As for being with the kids all day without a break, when my kids were little, I imposed nap/silent time. Under 4 went to bed for naps, older kids had their choice of activities as long as it was silent--reading, puzzles, drawing--no noise whatsoever, no going in and out of the house, or in and out of the refrigerator. Even DH knew better than to interrupt silent time. This custom was in effect way into the eldest's middle school years. Now that they are older still, they understand that I need time alone, and guess what? They do too! Some of them make no bones about telling DH and me that they are heading to their rooms, the porch, the patio, and would appreciate not being disturbed because they just really need some time alone. We also knock on all closed doors in this house, even if it is the door to our own rooms.
ReplyDeleteAs for access to you 24/7, well, the above helps with that. The other thing I can suggest is that you remember that you have a phone for YOUR convenience, not everybody else's. Not a thing wrong with turning it off, and tucking it in a drawer. If there is an emergency, the people who need you will know how to reach you no matter what.
As for being the default parent--no idea how to address that without getting my DH's nose bent out of shape. Apparently, that saying something like "Of course you can't manage this, Otterbein" is insulting.
Thanks for the advice Meg! Wednesday and Thursday I went into my bedroom after everyone left and ended up napping. Bill made dinner those 2 nights and I think he realized everything that I have been doing and the constant need of people/kids for me.
DeleteMy heart goes out to all the parents out there. I am not managing this well and I am an old lady. I can't imagine doing it with kids. I know it is wearing on you. I suggest a stiff drink and a lock on the bedroom door!
ReplyDeleteI LOVE that idea! LOL
DeleteHang in there, you're doing great! It's a hard time with all the new things and old things gone. I've mentioned to my husband on more than one occasion that it's got to be twice as tough with younger kids. As my preschool students say "air hugs to you!" :) And deep breaths...you'll get through it.
ReplyDeleteThanks Jean; I appreciate the "air hugs"!
DeleteAppreciate your honesty, my friend.
ReplyDeleteIt is all too much at times, isn't it?
You are doing awesome!
Don't be too hard on yourself. You got this!
Thanks for the vote of confidence Billie Jo! :)
DeleteI don't think these problems make a downer post. They are real feelings. When my children got to be too much, i would ask them if they would rather get down and dust baseboards or do whatever it was I was trying to get them to do. No one wanted to dust baseboards. Have a better day if you can.
ReplyDeleteToday was a better day!
DeleteI think you are doing great with what has been put on your plate, but if you need time alone, that must be made a priority. Meg had good advice-and the stiff drink idea from Anne wouldn't hurt. Wih you caring for you niece and nephew, any chance sometimes the kids could all stay there for a night, just one and a while where you get the entire evening to yourself?
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